My girlfriend has cheated on me and yet I was going to propose to her this April!
Am wondering, should I really go on and do this?
When we met she told me she had no boyfriend and that she was happy I loved her very much because men in her past life had mistreated her so much and that she has finally found someone who truly values her and that she had gained her confidence back.
We are in a long distance relationship and we meet every 3month for three weeks.
She cheated on me with her ex boyfriend who she had live with in same house for 1 ½ years and that he told her he’s sorry for how he treated her and that he wants her back. She told him that she had moved on (with me and that we are serious because we are going to marry) and that he should not expect to be seeing her again.
She has had 5 boyfriends in the past and tells me that he’s the one she had loved most among all of them.
We tried making a baby the last time we met and now am wondering if she is really a serious, because why would she sleep with another man when she think she might be pregnant with my child (that’s what her argument was until when I told her to tell me the exact truth and she finally confessed everything to me. She says they used protection but am now fearful that they may not have used condoms since the man would want also may be to make her pregnant- because he has done it to another girl before.)
And if she finally tells me she is pregnant, can I really be sure that the kid is mine? (She has done 2 pregnancy tests since I left on Jan 19th but still says she has pregnancy symptoms.)
Please Note: we had sex 3 days before her periods and 1 day after her period and then I left for work.
She has apologized a million times and says she is very sorry for let me down and that she will never do it again.
She says he called her to his place and that she wanted to tell him about me and our plans and they ended up having sex.
Am devastated because, I’ve always loved her and all our parents know us and that we intended to marry next year.
Could the distance have been the problem? (Because she actually has a very high sex drive).
If she could cheat on me when she thinks she might be pregnant with my baby, how sure am I that she will never do it again?
she has told me shes deeply embarrassed and very sorry and say 'i wish you could come home now or I come and be with you now ,we could talk about this one big mistake that has brought us so much pain, we could laugh and smile again.whatever the pregnancy results,it will be ok because the DNA test will strengthen our bond: if I am pregnant, the baby is yours.
Please help me with your advise!
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I have to tell you dude, I myself have been with my wife only a short time when I learned that she'd slept with a guy on weeks before we got married. There'd been several other men that I'd been suspicious about over the several years we'd dated however it was only this one guy that she's admitted to having sex with.
It was "truth time" only after I found out for myself. Prior to that when I'd ask about him she'd always say he was just a friend and nothing there.
It's been over a year now and I will tell you; had I had known that she'd f***ed around on me prior to us getting married I would NOT have gone through with the wedding at all. I find myself every day bitter at the fact of feeling like a large part of our marriage is based on a huge lie and I was tricked into it without having known 100% about her. I'm still not for sure that I will stay in the marriage. I don't trust her, feel at times that she's a slut on the prowl and find myself waiting for another guy to come along that sh'e go down on and spread her legs for. Can you tell I'm bitter? Anyway, I say this...do yourself a favor and move on and find someone that will be faithful to you and loves you. Not someone that she "loved the most" of all. If she's with you she should love YOU most and not out trying to find someone to satisfy her else where. They will always be deeply sorry and embarrased after you find out the truth. MOVE ON and find someone worth being with...she will break your heart if you stay. Spoken from experience on this one...MOVE ON and cut your ties with her now.2