Been married for 10 years with 2 great kids. My sex life sucks. I'm a 2 time a day guy and my wife doesn't care if she ever has sex. It's always been that way. It's not my appearance. I used to model and body build. She just doesn't like sex. I've tried everything Gentle and slow with plenty of foreplay. I thought she might have been molested or something but she says no. never happened.
Well after years of this I'm considering going outside the marriage. I hate this idea and I'm the only faithful guy I know. I've never cheated on her. I do love her but I believe that sex is part of intimacy and closeness. Yes I tried to talk with her a thousand times and it usually end up in an argument. I almost give up.
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She may need to go to an endocrinologist. If she is over 30, she may be perimenopausal. This can really do a number on her sex drive if her hormones are out of balance. She may not even realize it herself. Does she seem tired all of the time ? Has she started picking up weight ? Does she complain she's cold all the time ? Does she already have a LOT of gray hair ? (Not always and indication, but might be.) Did her mother/grandmother go through menopause early in life ? When your hormones are messed up, sex can seem like a chore or even disgusting. Think of it as PMS to the "Nth" degree. Seriously. Just don't nag her about sex. Be understanding. It may not be her fault.
If it's not hormone-related, you may need to consider divorce. Don't cheat. It will end up making things FAR worse. It will be especially hardest on the children.
For more information, Google "Perimenopause and Menopause Symptoms" and see what you find. Bookmark it if you've observed some of the symptoms or print it and show it to her. Anyone over 30 can start menopause. It's not typical, but it happens.