If you told your boyfriend/girlfriend that you wanted to get married and they said they wanted to wait...what is left of the relationship? False hope?
How do you even get it out of your head and try to keep the relationship alive?
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How about the fact that you've gone as long as you have loving each other, without a document stating you have to? How about all the things you've experienced together up to this point and the desire to experience more of that at some point in the future. While he may not want to get married right this minute why should you have to feel like it's suddenly over?
A marriage isn't something to be entered into lightly, it's more than just a commitment not to be with anyone else. It's a huge responsibility for both people, and a stressful undertaking. If he said not right now then maybe it's because he's worried about the future, work, family a mortgage, and is scared to fill his head with the stress of a ceremony just yet on top of it.
Ask yourself something, Was marriage the only reason you entered the relationship at all? if so then maybe you should rethink your position in it. If it's just that you want a commitment then keep in mind that you technically already have it and if "not right now" destroys that then maybe you're just seeking that official "finish line" that proves you're committed to the world. It shouldn't be that, it should mark an exciting future for the both of you. After you do that, go talk to HIM about why he wants to wait, listen to his reasons and give him time to voice them in a calm manner because chances are he just said it to delay thinking about it at all and hasn't fully formed his thoughts yet in a way to be presented to you. Don't brow beat him for an answer. If he's able to voice any of his fears or concerns try to agree to discuss them again at a later (let's say 2 months) this way he'll have a chance to think about it without feeling like he's going to be ambushed with the question and maybe he will feel like he can handle tying the knot.
That's my opinion anyway.0
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