If you want to get married, would you stay in a relationship with someone if you didn't see yourself marrying them, barring teenage/high school relationships?
I'm reading a book right now about dating and commitment. The author suggests that people these days get into relationships to fulfill the "needs of the moment" rather than look ahead to marriage.
To an extent, I agree that plenty of people are short-sighted and get into relationships for the wrong reasons (why else would our divorce rate be what it is?), but if you do want to get married, would you really invest as much time and emotion in another person if you weren't seriously thinking about a future with them?
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I've wondered about that too. I had a friend who was dating someone for nearly two years and one day another friend joked about them getting married; my friend was like disgusted and said no way! And I wondered what the heck she was doing in a relationship with him if she wasn't thinking of him as marriage material. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and we have already discussed our future, marriage and kids, and I wouldn't be with him if I didn't see that sort of future with him because I feel I'd be wasting my time. BUT, like my friend, some people maybe just enjoy being in a relationship for the company and because the other person is fun...I don't know, everyone's different.1