My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, like any relationship we have had our rough patches but we really are happy together. My boyfriend's parents divorced when he was an awkward age(14) and it has scarred him to the point where he thinks marriage is hopeless. He has said that he thinks it is necessary to date for 10 years before marriage, which I have made clear would not fly with me. However he has introduced me to nearly all of his family, is planning to introduce me to his extended family from out of state, and this week said that he was excited that I was staying over at his place while his roommates are out of town because "it's like we live together." Am I fooling myself by thinking he'll change his mind and potentially propose to me before 10 years?
Will he EVER want to marry me?
What Guys Said 4
Is he a member of the Men's Rights Movement? Marriage is designed to screw over the male and is a burden in its current state. Your guy can love you without getting the government involved. If marriage was never invented, would it make sense to invent it?
Marriage is scary. I side with your guy. Being a product of divorce and being in the military where marriages end terribly I don't want to do it either.0
He may never want to marry you.
Some people just don't believe in marriage. Period.1
10 years seems like an arbitrary number just to give you a smidge of hope or something.0
What Girls Said 1
If he's flat out told you that he will wait 10 years then more than likely that is what he is planning on doing. He seems to be afraid of commitment and he gives you the 10 year deadline because it seems too far off into the future for him to start worrying about it. When it actually gets close to the 10 year mark, he might prolong it even more depending on his fear. My sister and her boyfriend have been together, unmarried, for 10 years but they never imagined that they would be there. They had the dream of getting married of course but they are not financially stable to have the wedding of their dreams. A paper really shouldn't make a difference. A marriage is not a wedding and people seem to think they are the same thing, when really you should be living your marriage since the moment you two decide that you are serious about each other. That is just my point of view. Who knows, his opinion might change in 2 years, maybe 3, or 5, because people grow and they see things differently.0
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