I'm 25 now and want marry with boy who is black. I am with him 6 years and I'm very happy, we are really in love.
But my parents aren't so open minded like me, especially my mother.
She said that I would better marry white man, not African.. that he would cheat on me, she doesn't trust him , he is different was raised in different culture.. we won't be happy..
I am sure I want marry him but my parents said that they won't attend my marriage and if I marry him I can forget about them
They won't help me if I have any problem with him ( they are sure I would have) , they wouldn't give me money if I need , and I can't count for any help from them.
I love him, but this situation is too much for me:( I am nervous that I lose my parents , I just need their support:(
What should I do ? should I marry him against my parents will?
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I married out-of-race and my parents were not really "thrilled" about it either, although they didn't threaten me like they threatened you. Long story short, they have come to love their daughter-in-law to death once they actually got to know her.
So the moral of the story is... ignorant parents can remain ignorant, or they can be bitter and see the light later. You could get lucky and they could see the light.
Even if not though, why should you throw the love of your life away? Would you do so in the name of the good intentions of "wanting what is best for their daughter" when they could actually be perpetuating their own personal comfort and ignorance? Maybe they really just don't want to deal with seeing black relatives?
If you go there way, just ask them for an arranged marriage and marry whoever they pick, and while you are at it, just eat the kind of food they think you should like also.
Anyhow, a man has to be judged on his characteristics, values, and merits. If your proposed fiance is lacking in any of these things, you would have worthwhile reason to take heed. However, if it is just because he is black, or has African-American culture, that isn't a significant reason as long as you know that you yourself can blend with it.
Family gatherings might be a bit chilly, but they'll just have to get with the times, won't they?