If your husband or wife hid problems from you before you married and then admitted to them after marriage and was seeking help, how far could you go to stand by them?
My husband's problems include:
Lying about things to either look better or avoid conflict
A past history of cheating on others
Hot mess with money, spending on non-necessities and overdrawing his account
Still maintaining a connection with his ex that seems more than normal to raise their kids
There are days I just need a break, he can be so over the top. However, he has made some changes that have stuck and I know if I ask him to move out, life will get very hard for him and continuing to get help will be financially impossible. What would you do?
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They say to sin is human, and to forgive divine.
They also say you can be right, or you can be married: choose one.
Of course, it sounds like your situation has options even within the marriage to improve things. You said he has stuck to some changes, so that is a huge plus. Financially it sounds like he doesn't do math well and just draws on whatever he wants at the time and hopes it all adds up -- you could frustrate yourself trying to turn him into an accountant, or you can come up with a system to help him better project his overall buying (in the worst case, an allowance and let you handle it all -- not something I'd advocate but may be necessary for people who can't add). I may recommend just reviewing the types of expenditures he likes to make, and go by X amounts of product rather than thinking of X amounts of dollars, because you already know how much X amounts of product would cost.
Cheating on others is a terrible characteristic. Cheaters seldom ever change their ways, but maybe he got to a place in his life where he resolved to change that prior to meeting you, so hard to judge.
As for the ex-... a good thing would be a little reminder that you trust him, but at the same time if "hypothetically" anything happened, that he would have complete hell to pay for it. :)
I don't think these reasons alone are significant enough to constitute a divorce.