I was just reading an article link about people marrying young and someone said that since divorce rates are so high the legal age to marry should be raised to 25. Crazy right, anyway what would it take to lead you to get a divorce?
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IMO, most people these days have NO IDEA what marriage even means. The concepts of duty and honor and respect are completely lost, and are just words they say. I know many people who get married more for the WEDDING and the honeymoon (and the status among their friends that results) than for the MARRIAGE. That's really why most marriages don't last.
A marriage is like a sports team in many ways. You have to constantly be working and practicing and training, and you have to both put the needs of the TEAM ahead of your own personal needs. You have to support your team and defend it from outsiders even if their might be some truth in what they say, just like fans of a sports team will support their team even during a losing season. You have to be able to talk and plan and work for the TEAM's goals rather than your own, and you have to put your own needs and desires aside and do what's best for the TEAM and its collective responsibilities.
Most folks today don't even understand what that MEANS, much less being prepared to DO it.
Assuming I *was* married, a divorce would be justified by an unrepairable break of trust, or by a partner who was simply no longer willing to put the team first. If your partner no longer values the needs and goals of the team, it's impossible for you to work hard enough to make up for it, and if they aren't willing to get help to solve the problem (counselling/therapy), then there's little point in staying together.6
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