we have been together about a year and a half. he occasionally brings up the idea of marriage. he has never said it right out,"i want to marry you." but he talks about how he plans on building a house and he points out houses when we are driving around. he'll say things like that looks nice, or ask if I like certain ones. ill kind of joke around with him saying "we aren't married" and when he talks about us I jokingly say I can't marry him, and he always tells me to loose his number then. I do want to marry him. I love him and I actually wish he would propose! I just don't want to psych myself out and go all in thinking we will be together, then get my heart broken if it doesn't work out. he is just getting on his feet from college so I know he can't get a ring. should I keep playing it cool, or should I start letting my true intentions show... again I don't know how to do that without being scared of possibly investing my heart then getting hurt. any feedback is appriciated!
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Well you can think of it in a different way and maybe it will help you decide. If you go all in you can live the relationship and fantasies you want and be happy for as long as the relationship lasts with the risk of it ending and you being hurt. Or you can keep holding off and being sort of awkward with his advances he may think you aren't interested and stop mentioning it or feel taht you aren't as into the relationship as him and when it ends still be hurt because you love him, but less hurt.
You could always go along and enjoy your house /marriage fantasies with him but keep them being fantasies and don't set your heart on it happening just enjoy the idea of it.0