LONG STORY SHORT:
I was forced into this arranged marriage with this guy in Jordan and I actually spent time getting to know the guy (2 months) and it was time for me to come back to U.S!
My mom disliked him after seeing that his mother and sister controls him and he listens to what they say! But to me, the guy was all that I can dream of! Then he told me about this girl that he was in love with for 9 YEARS and have recently broken up after he asked her to marry him and she refused because her parents refused! Am I a rebound?
He only made it through high school and doesn't do anything for a living at the age of 28 now! Does he deserve to be brought to the U.S? He tells me that he loves me (after 2 months of knowing each other) and he wants me to have his child etc.
I don't know if I want to believe that but the guy changed my life in many ways! the way I view it and the way I live it! amazing but true! The reason I don't believe him is because I think he just wants me for the paper in order to come to AMERICA!
And because of that GIRL! And my mother said she'll disown me if I decide to let the marriage go on! DAMN So help me out! I'm confused! The real question is: Should I just let it go..he's over seas and I'm here... or should I continue the relationship? thanx guys!
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I'm really curious as to how you got into an arranged marriage with this guy that you have known for two months. As far as I understand (with just about all cultures that have arranged marriages) both families agree on the union, and it doesn't sound like your family was involved at all. Did this guys family say that you were going to marry their son? This really doesn't make sense.
As far as knowing him for 2 months and then getting married and having kids,... I would have to say don't go through with it. I have seen with a few different business clients where something like this happened, and the person just used them for papers. I get the feeling like that is the case here.
If he is really into you,.. then he can put himself through the process of becoming a US citizen without you marrying him. It is very, very difficult, but I personally would feel more comfortable with that, than getting someone their papers. For all you know he is still with that other girl, and is just wanting to get over to the US, then after the 3 years, he will drop you and then bring her over here (it happens).
I would say if you feel any hesitation at all, then that is your gut telling you something very serious and you should pay attention.
Best of luck with whatever you choose.2