I really want to ask this for You that believe that get marriage will put you in a jail. Why do you believe that? Man and Woman.
We can always get divorce If don't work out, So What it is that make our generation ( including me ) so worried about loosing all this heartless freedom sex out there?
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You are ignoring some VERY important issues. Go talk to some people who have been divorced, especially if there were children involved, and you'll start to figure a lot of it out.
Marriage isn't just about love and commitment to a relationship. It is also a legal business contract, with some VERY significant responsibilities and liabilities, especially if you have any assets or liabilities going into the marriage.
A few examples:
A guy I used to work with was married with two daughters. His wife met another guy and decided she liked him better, so she moved in with him and took the girls. She filed for divorce and got custody of the kids, which meant not only alimony, but also child support.
Now the background: when they were getting married, he was working in IT, and she was going to school to be a nurse. After she graduated, she got pregnant and never started working, so he worked two jobs and over 7 years paid off her student loans, as well as all the expenses for the family. His wife moved out very soon after he'd paid them off. She took the new car and left him the house and the old car. Her support payments were based on the differences between their income, so she ended up getting 3/4 of his after-tax paycheck between alimony and child support, so of course he couldn't keep the house, and there was no equity in it so he couldn't sell it; he had to let it be foreclosed on, affecting ONLY his credit.
And so now, he rents a room in someone's house and eats bologna and ramen noodles and prays his car will start in the morning, while his ex works part-time under the table and has his $1900/month support payments to play with. She buys the girls thrift-store clothes and uses the money for shopping, vacations with her new boyfriend, and a new car for herself. Did I mention she moved out-of-state, so he doesn't even get to see his daughters?
Another example: a guy a know had a girlfriend who got very sick. She couldn't get medical coverage with her diagnosis, so they got married so they could put her on his plan. Nine months later, she died. He is now responsible for over $80K of her past non-medical debt (mostly school loans) plus another $25K in medical expenses.
And I knew a girl who had inherited $250K when her grandfather died. She had the money in their joint account because they were planning to buy a house. Her husband packed up and left her and drained the bank account, and there was nothing she could do as it was a joint account and he had full rights to whatever money was in there.
I'm not even going to get into the issues of children and fighting over them in the divorce, having strange people helping raise them (often very undesirable people), and all the issues surrounding that. Marriage is VERY complicated, and people who don't look at it like a business contract are making a HUGE mistake.
It would be VERY different if the government wasn't involved.0