Started seeing a guy at work for sex more than 10 years ago. I was married at the time and he has since got married. We have stayed mates for years and call each other occasionally and meet up usually resulting in sex but not always. My question is does this guy like me as a person or is he just using me for sex outside his marriage, do guys sleep with women for this long without having any feelings for her at all.
Any advice greatly appreciated.
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Yes, it is entirely possible and probable that he likes/loves/adores you. Sometimes relationships/love is all about timing or circumstances.
I completely disagree with all this preachy crap everyone is trying to lay on you. People change, sometimes significantly, when they get married; and are often confronted with unworkable circumstances that leave them incomplete, unfulfilled and angry in a marriage. When you realize you made a mistake, a lot of times it's too late and you are trapped or require time to heal things before repairing. Your relationship can be a refuge, perhaps because you two are not married, but nonetheless very genuine and real.
Marriages are frequently complete hell with no workable solution. It's normal to turn to another who will give you what's missing.1