So, my fiance who I've been with for a year has a deceased fiance from about 5 or 6 years ago. Me and him are 20 now and I feel that I think about her way too much and have been since he told me about a year ago.
It was an arranged marriage and they met when he was about 13. They had a girl who died at 3 (ran over by a truck on her birthday) when he was about 16 and his last fiance killed herself due to the traumatic experience.
I've held some jealousy and resentment towards her when I first found out, because she had killed herself and I felt angry at her for such a selfish act that affected my boyfriend now fiance. I was also jealous because when we first met he spoke so fondly of her and once told a friend how beautiful she was.
I always felt like I couldn't compare. But now that I'm 15 wks pregnant, I want to stop thinking of her so much and now feel bad for thinking of this girl I never knew in such a bad way even if she killed herself.
I know my fiance has moved on, but now it seems as if "I" need to move on.
Just the other day I came upon a poem he made about her a few years ago. It was so beautiful and I felt his sadness. I felt jealous again then stopped myself. This girl is dead. Why do I keep thinking of her when I never even knew her. Why can't I let it go and just live my life with my fiance in peace?
Pretty soon I will bring a baby into this world. I want to stop thinking of my fiance's dead fiance.
Most Helpful Girl
Whether you want to admit it or not this girl is a huge part of your life because she was such a huge part of your fiances life. Yes you are about to bring a baby into the world. I think you should use that as your catalyst to move on. He lost a family but now he has a new one. That should be enoufh to help you move on0