If you and your boyfriend or girlfriend have been together for more than five years could that be considered the ultimate compliment?
I mean think about it 40-50% of marriages end in divorce. Now how many of those remaining 50-60% that are still married actually happy? I mean how many won't leave because they're just comfortable? how many still married cause they don't want to risk losing everything in a divorce? How many have simply just fallen out of love but stay cause they don't want to start over?
Without marriage in play the two of you are just boyfriend and girlfriend. Meaning that person is there simply for you or for you and the kids. No ring keeping them there, No fear of losing this or that in a divorce keeping them there. No, its you who keeps them there and what the two of you have.
so why is there this big need for marriage?
you may argue "its the cherry on top" but isn't the cherry on top just being with that person in the first place?
If you were in a relation for 5+yrs and everything was going great but the other person did not want to get married. Would you leave them to search for someone who wants marriage?
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I agree. Compliment might be too strong a word but I get what your saying- that the person is with you because that is all they want, not because they have a ring on their finger tying them to you. But saying that I may be biased as I am in a relationship for 10 years with no need or want to get married. Some people see marriage as a sign of commitment, I see actually committing to the person without legalities and ceremony as a sign of commitment but each to their own,1