I've been dating a guy for a year and a half now. We were talking about some stuff like getting married etc. And he said to be that he will not get married (obviously I don't want to get married right away).
I really want to get married one day and I don't know if its worth while staying with him and hoping that he will change his mind? Must I wait till one day few years from now and then leave him cause he doesn't want to get married?
This for info: He was engaged a few years back though.
And when I asked him why did he engaged if he doesn't want to get married - he said to me, its because he loved her.
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He could still be sore from his engagement, and be scared of commitment. If he loved her and wanted to marry her but something happened to end their relationship then he doesn't want to go through that again, but eventually he will let it go. It doesn't mean that he NEVER wants to get married, it just means that he needs time to deal with what happened and that marriage is a delicate topic to talk about with another girl he likes. Don't view it as a red flag because, well, if it happened to you how would you feel?
But just because you're not married doesn't mean that you guys can't be in a relationship. A lot of people stay boyfriend/girlfriend for a while until they decide to get married(some people 10 or more years). Marriage doesn't have to be a thing you should be too freely talking about unless he brings it up though, because guys don't think about marriage the same as women. It isn't as big of a deal to men as it is to women, doesn't mean that it isn't a big deal to guys because it is(it's more about love and having that person for the rest of his life, than it is about memories and cake and family and friends and the dress and whatever women have weddings for)0