Isn't marriage just an excuse to relax and slack off, thinking "Well, I got someone now, for the rest of my life. I don't have to try so hard to be nice, stay thin, look pretty, be sexy, etc..."
And if not, why not?
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Mmmm perhaps for some. That does make sense...but there are those of us who don't seek that kind of 'settling'.
My goal isn't to eventually settle with someone 'forever' but to find someone whom I fall in love with continually, and continue to do for them.
I did, for a long time, worry about that. I stayed away from relationships for it. I was afraid of being 'tricked' into marriage, as I considered it.
But that's a horrible way to live and think, I've discovered. You're basing your assumptions, in that thought train, on only negative observation and completely dismissing the other end of the spectrum. Happy marriages do exist, and anyone can be part of one, by simply doing their part and tuning in to their partner. By not giving up when times get rough. By not resolving to thinking of only their partners flaws, but instead remembering the things that you fell in love with.
I don't think everyone goes into marriage with the intent to leave it, some just marry too soon, some marry for the wrong reasons, some are pressured into it, some 'settle', some marry with the odd misconception that marriage will...fix something, some marry simply because they presume you're supposed to if you're pregnant/have kids together. etc...but when marriage is entered with an understanding and a vow...by people who already have something sturdy built...marriage can be a beautiful thing. Like life, marriage is what the two involved...make of it. It's a matter of teamwork, and compromise. Working together to keep the romance alive and achieve a happy life...together.2