So I have been married for almost 5 years and wife told me that she wasn't happy and wanted to move on. Turns out she had found another guy already and been cheating on me for a few weeks. It ended badly between them and after a few months we have gotten back together. Should I be able to trust her? Is it a good idea? Things are going well but there is still this one issue.
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I'm so sorry. I was in a very similar situation (10+ years married, he was cheating, but I found out from another source rather than from my ex).
From what I have gathered (from counselors, etc.), stepping away from him was the best decision I could make because (1) cheaters tend to be repeat offenders; (2) secretive cheaters can't really be trusted, so why put myself through the turmoil twice; and (3) cheaters tend to be dissatisfied with every relationship and may use an earlier relationship as a crutch till a new prospect comes along.
Personally, I would never take my ex back as I could never rest easy in my own home as a result of what I now know he did. I'm much better off alone (or just dating on occasion) than back in a damaged (and damaging) relationship with him.
You know better than I would since every situation is a little different, but that's my experience (and the advisement I was given over time as well).
Good luck. This is not an easy decision for anyone to make about the person they vowed to spend an eternity with...5