I've never been married before obviously...but everyone from friends, family and strangers always bring up that marriage is hard. Most of them always end up saying avoid it but is really that bad?
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Marriage is a long term, what should be long lasting relationship that continuously needs effort from both parties. This doesn't mean marriage should be a constant struggle, but when you marry you become one. One persons problems become the other persons problems.
Add work, financial struggles, illness, children, school, age, lack of communication because you've got too much going on, lack of intimacy because you put the kids and work before the marriage and this all equals to a struggling marriage.
Marriage is a relationship, but it's a lifelong commitment. It shouldn't be a constantly battle or a constant struggle, but people shouldn't expect it to be a walk in the park. There will be sh*tty/difficult/unhappy times.
Not only that, but both partners have to share the same long term goals. They have to want the same things out of the relationship and out of life. That's why it's important to find someone you're compatible with in every aspect and you have to know if they are able to contribute to the relationship.
Marriage is hard but I'm willing to take a shot at it.0