I don't mean the idea of being with one person for the rest of your life, I mean the fact that you pay so much for a wedding, and that love is basically a contract.
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Are we talking about the bureaucratic ceremony of marriage and the wedding or the actual marriage that lasts 20-60 years? In mind they're sort of two different things.
The ceremony where you sign the contract and the wedding where people spend tens of thousands of dollars- well I think in genreal it's ridiculous. There is no need to spend $1000's on a ring and $60,000 on ONE day just to complete the marriage contract. I think it's crazy how much people spend on getting married- especially when the money could be much better used on a downpayment on a house, a car, saving for kids, or retirement or even a sweet vacation. So that part, yeah, it's stupid.
But actual marriage where you have an eduring relationship with someone through all of life's little ups and downs, that's beautiful. In my mind, the part of the wedding that matters is where you make your vows/promises to the other person. The fact that you're willing to stand there and make those promises in public and go through life trying to keep them to each other is pretty special. Also, when I look at my grandparents who have been together over 60 years still teasing each other and doing cute little things to make each other happy, it's probably the most adorable and romantic thing ever. It makes me think marriage to the right person would be pretty freaking awesome.
Sure, you can live common law forever and it's certainly a commitment to each other, but there's definitely something almost next level about marriage...
I'm not saying marriage is necessary for every couple and I know some extremely happy ones who never plan to get married. And we've probably all seen some unhappy married couples. But, I figure if I ever meet the person I want to spend my life with, I'll want to take the next step and get married.0