My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years. However...I want to progress our relationship but he is a little hesitant. Not from anything I have done, he is hesitant because he was burned in his previous marriage (bad divorced). How do I get him over this without being pushy or demanding. I try not to mention marriage because I want him to be ready. We could be perfect together. We are great together, it's just this wall that I have came upon. I can't prove to him that I am not her and I would never hurt him. I have given him several years and I feel he is the one for me. I just don't know if I should continue. I don't want to think that I am not good enough to fully commit to. Help...
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i tell you this from the bottom of my heart, I am going through a divorce and quite frankly I don't ever want to marry again. the pain and all the stress makes marriage still not worth it because the divorce ruins any happiness you have. it destroys you as a person, think of a divorce kind of like when someone dies. you grieve and cry and are horrible for a while. you realize that you don't know as much as you really knew about that person you see a different side of them you never ever saw before. the divorce brings out a side of you that they have never seen. it get ugly a lot and you gotta do all these things to protect yourself. its not fun nor is the divorce easy its months of this feelings.
thats why he is so hesitant to don't get mad at him I wouldn't marry you or any girl even after 5 years.
but marriage can be rewarding but you gotta be perfect with trust and money those two issues will rip you apart from the inside out. any insecurities must be addressed. you are the right age for it I was not but I learned a lot from it all. seriously think about everything before you make arrangements and pay for everything. have you even though about how much a wedding costs?0