I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and he hasn't popped the question, the relationship before him was about 4 -4 1/2 years and all I got was a wedding date pushed off a few times and the engagement off then a promise to marry me... Needless to say when should you cut your losses and just move on? I want a long engagement, small wedding ect.
- Within 1-2 years19% (3)0% (0)15% (3)Vote
- Around the 3-4 year mark44% (7)75% (3)50% (10)Vote
- Around 5- 6 years19% (3)25% (1)20% (4)Vote
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Most Helpful Girl
1-2 years. If a guy is mentally ready for a serious relationship and has already met someone then by then emd of 1-2 years he'll know if she's the one. My fiance knew at 3 months we were something special and by 6 months he knew I was the one but he didn't reveal any of this to me til afw months later when he started dropping hints about the future asking me about plans, babies etc.
If he keeps pushing dates and postponing then I'm sorry he's not sure he wants to marry you and if one day he does, you're going to feel like you pushed him into it and so will he. I think its better to find someone who really wants to be with us. Me and my girlfriends had the one year rule where if the guy never mentions the future vy end of year one its time to cut losses. I don't mean mention as propose, but mention as in you can tell he plans to propose.
A colleague of mine tells me that not all guys do that...but from what she told me her husband settled for ger. Guys settle too it's not just a female preoccupation. If you are seeking marriage then I suggest ypu leave this one for someone who is also ready and looking for that someone.
A lot of people say men don't like the idea of commitment. Not true at all. All bar one of my nale friends are looking to marry their gfs and they are excited and nervous about it.0