today and last night I was too pissed off to have sex with my wife. I mean there was literally a molten sensation in my brain from fury. I wanted to have sex with her but all of my senses, to include touch, seemed distant and detached. I used to kind of like the 'swimming in rage' sensation, but now that it's interfering with my sex life I want no part of it anymore. But there doesn't seem to be anything I can do about it. I can't just talk it out with my wife because she's very sensitive to criticism, and her pouting just infuriates me further. I know this place is overrun with adolescents and trolls, but occasionally someone has words of wisdom. Any takers?
oh, ps. I'm not violent.
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I personally would seek out counselling. Little things shouldn't set you off like that, or interfere with your life. Some people are just wired to be more aggressive than others, this definitely crosses the line.
A counsellor can help find out why you have such deep anger issues and give you tips on dealing with them so that your anger doesn't become a hindrance to enjoying your life.
The only thing I can say in the meantime is to try and take a step back when you feel like you are incredibly angry. You aren't violent, which is very good, but you still need to teach yourself to let go of the anger. Whenever your wife upsets you, step away from the situation, go on a walk, drink a glass of water, isolate yourself from your wife.
Give yourself some time to calm down and breath. Then when you are not so emotionally involved in the situation, think about it in a logical way.
Things like being interrupted while playing a game can be frustrating, but not to the point that you have described.0