I was talking with some guys and thinking...
When a man and woman are just living together, if one gets fat, or becomes a drunk slob, or becomes a jerk, or abusive, or just falls out of love--it's easy to end things. Just, "We're done, I'm moving." Really simple and easy. And both people know that, so both the man and woman realize they actually have to be likeable if they want the other person to stick around.
But in marriage, it's a huge mess, back stabbing in divorce court, false claims of abuse, alimony, stuff gets taken away. So, in marriage, whoever makes less money, most of the time, can get away being a horrible jerk, because the courts will gut the person who makes more cash with alimony and lost house, etc. That means that one partner, in marriage, has almost no power, and can't do a lot if the other person is a complete jerk, because divorce usually rapes one person.
So isn't cohabitation, really, a whole lot better than marriage? Because, if your buddy turns into a miserable person, both people are free to leave at any time.
In marriage, it can easily be miserable, because whoever makes less money can be a jerk, withhold sex, whatever, because divorce court guts the person who makes more money with alimony and such.
So, really, isn't cohabitation much more fair?
Cohabitation=both people have equal power to walk away whenever there is cause.
Marriage=the person who makes less money can walk away whenever they want and get alimony, the other person is stuck.
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Is cohabitating more fair and just than marriage?
In my opinion no as going by studies gals still end up not only working and contributing the same/similar financially but also doing all/most of the household duties. As well as I find gals tend to still be nagged, coerced, and pressured into sex solely for his benefit otherwise she's 'withholding sex' or 'using sex as a weapon' if she doesn't want to have sex because she's angry at him and isn't aroused by the thought of someone she holds negative feelings towards at the moment shoving his d*ck inside her and busting a nut. Especially since some states now have made it legal to claim that 'denying' your partner sex is a form of abuse and a crime.
In my opinion the more fair thing is casual multi-dating though I may be biased as that's what I do.
"Because, if your buddy turns into a miserable person, both people are free to leave at any time. "
Egh in marriage if your buddy turns into a miserable person both are free to leave at any time as well and the who fear of being blasted in divorce can be remedied with a per-nupital or post-nuptial.0