got back with ex but he said his parents are pressuring him to get married and also says he wants me. months ago he never mentioned marriage. don't know where this is coming from, he is nearly 40 and independent so seems strange. it is messing with my head, not sure what to do. he is from a pakistani background and so am i. why is he telling me this. why doesn't he just see me like we were before? so confused and he is not giving much detail about it
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well if he has an arrangement to get married there is probably a "dowry" associated with the process that the brides family would give his family. that and tradition makes arranged marriages very difficult to break even if a person is rather indepedent or progressive from the old ways.
I think the problem is he is battling tradition versus whatever feelings he may have for you. Understand that you are facing a bit of an uphill battle.
on one hand he could choose you but doing so may alienate his family
he could go with his family, get married but lose you.
Sort of one of age old (romeo / juliet) type of issues. family and tradition vs personal feelings0
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