I am really very depressed. Dating since : 2 years.
Made out a lot of times. All the cute things too.
Age : 17. Both of us. I am just older than him like 3 months.
He keeps teasing me all the time and once went like I will marry someone younger than me. Well I felt bad cause he has always said that i.am the one for him (not that i care about marriage). So I went like we have made out so many time and not even sure aboit each other.he said okay so we will NOT INTERACT PHYSIYCALLY till marriage. I went like I can't live without hugging you. I was sick today and said I need a hugg.. He said no. He didn't hugg me. I got tears and cried he asked me to stop and when I didn't he said : to hell with you. And WALKED AWAY.
Most Helpful Guy
This all sounds like an awful experience, QA. You're clearly very serious about your feelings, which sadly is quite a rare thing, especially for people your age, and you got hurt because this guy you've been dating is acting like a jackass.
What's going on here is: the guy's playing games with your feelings, and in a terrible manner. What he's doing, is deliberately making you feel bad for being so serious about your feelings. The fact is that he doesn't want to be serious and more importantly, he thinks neither of you SHOULD BE, and that normative point of view is how he's justifying his behavior. I won't go into detail about why he doesn't want to be serious, because there are a lot of sociological, cultural and psychological factors to consider, but I will tell you that what he's doing is experiencing a manner of discomfort and placing all responsibility for that with you.
Now, don't get me wrong, I do think that you may have made him feel pressured to be as serious about it as you are, and I think it would be wise for you to look back at your own actions to see if you've been unfair to him prior to this escalation of events, BUT do NOT let that guilt trip you into taking on all the blame. He's being a d*ck, and you should seriously consider whether you want to be with someone who would use signs of affection as bargaining chips in a relationship.
My advice is the following: try to sit down and have an open and honest conversation with him. If there's anything you feel guilty for doing, then start with apologizing for that. This way he'll be more likely to listen to what you have to say, and you'll be showing that you want to communicate openly and honestly.
Once you've done that, you'll need to start talking about why what happened happened. You need to explain yourself and ask questions, so he can properly explain himself too. It's very important that you be understanding here. Don't take the easy way and simply chalk up his actions to being 'irrational'. He did the things he did for a reason. Everything anybody does is understandable, but do remember that an explanation isn't necessarily an excuse. Just because someone's actions were understandable doesn't mean they were right.
Finally and most importantly, if he refuses to communicate openly and honestly or is at any point unfair to you when you are trying to be fair to him, and sadly I think this is not unlikely at all, you need to gather up your courage and make the very hard decision to walk away from him, to end things completely. I know how hard that would be, and I wouldn't blame you if you didn't follow up on this part of my advice, but if you can, do it.
Don't try to make him jealous afterward, don't try to communicate anymore AT ALL unless HE tries to and he genuinely means to be open and honest. If he really cares, he will come after you, and if he doesn't he was never worth it. Expect the worst, hope for the best.
I wish you the best of luck.0