My girlfriend has been noticing her age a lot recently and is more and more upset that she is a few years from 30 and not married.
She is pressuring me to "make a commitment" but insists she doesn't want marriage right now - but rather that we should get engaged. Personally, I don't think you should "pop the question" unless you are prepared to marry the person on the spot. I don't think of engagement as a period to "test things out more". Am I completely wrong in this?
Also - if I shouldn't get engaged, what else can I do? We already live in the same place (renting it out currently), I pay for our living expenses and some of her bills (gym, cell phone, etc.) We're not dating other people, etc. We've been together for 8+ months and I don't know what else to do to show her I'm committed but that it's not time for marriage (engagement) yet.
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I don't think not ben 'ready' to marry each other is the issue/ I thin if you 100% wanted to get married you'd be happy to get engaged at any point.
it sounds to me that you are not sure you want to marry hr. not ready is actually doubt.
h not getting any younger is not a good reason for either of you to get married.
if you want to marry I don't see what harm getting engaged will be.
if you are getting engaged to make sure you have to marry even though you want to, that's a bad idea.
theres no place for pressure in a lie long decision, imo. you either want to of your own volition, or you do not.
1. why do you WANT to marry hr.
2. when you say not 'ready' what are the reasons for this?
if you can not answer one or both questions, I think you should reconsider whether you really intend to get married.
what does it mean you're committed but are not ready to get married? what is the difference to you?
i think you need to focus on whether you really want to commit. rather than worry about how to make her believe you want to commit.0