I'm just wondering how many guys out there are wanting to find that last girlfriend. It seems like a lot of guys are content to just date for long periods of time and just 'see where it goes", or are turned off by the idea of a life partner right now. I'm not saying rush, just that you are looking for that sort of relationship, or at least if it came you'd be for it. Responses from all ages are welcome, but gents in the 25-35 age range, I'd particularly like to hear your input!
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I think when guys are honest about how they feel about all this, they get criticized a lot. But I?m going to be honest. The only choices are to acknowledge how men feel, or to deny reality. So here goes.
For many reasons, men are much less interested in marriage than ever before. The main reason is that the divorce and family courts are so skewed in favour of women. Many men understand that it?s genuinely dangerous to get married these days.
A major reason that men are ?playing around? in general is that many men feel that they need to make up for lost time. I know so many men who remain unsuccessful in young adulthood, but then become attractive in their late twenties and their thirties. If you weren?t able to get laid for the first decade or decade and a half that you had that desire, are you going to settle down? Hell no. I think the problem has gotten worse because of women?s increased standards, which many young men just can?t fulfil.
But men do want companionship, and it?s not impossible to get a man to want to marry you but it?s just far more difficult than ever. I think you should be open to things like pre-nups. But also if a man says he will stay with you forever, isn?t that enough? Why would you want a piece of paper, unless you intend to take away his stuff later? Even then, he?s taking a risk by having children, because often the man?s children get taken away from him.
Unfortunately, many places in the West are introducing cohabitation laws that impose a legal situation similar to marriage on cohabiting couples. If that becomes widespread, it may not be just marriage that is finished, but cohabitation altogether. I?m not going to risk poverty, bankruptcy and debtors? prison for the sake of intimacy.0