I know this question has been asked many times, but I want current opinions and fresh perspective from some of the younger users on here too.
in my opinion, marriage has become a business, a way to cheat the system, and an excuse to commit a battery of immoral acts. Now before I go further, let me first state that although I am a modern Pagan, I still believe that a married couple should honor certain morals and values.
I do not believe sex out of wedlock is wrong IF you are both of consenting age. I believe the term cheating is only applicable when your are hiding it from your partner and/or do not have their permission to sleep with a certain individual.
In most cases, I do not agree with getting married simply because you're pregnant. You don't have to be married to be in the child's life, or to help cover the cost of care. It's just not worth risking raising the child in a negative environment if the couple is a bad match.
I believe anyone who wants to marry should be allowed.
But back to my main points. Marriage is used every day to cheat the government out of money, spouses will use the M card to gain access to the SO's private information, and there are far too many people out their cheating simply because they are afraid of a messy divorce battle. Anit-Gay couples will use their marriage to justify hate crimes and violence against homosexuals, and there are far too many children suffering with unfit parents, simply because the state sees that two parents live in the home.
A ring will NOT guarantee loyalty or or fidelity. A piece of paper will not ensure that your spouse will take care of you financially, but many still assume this.
I'm a modern woman, and I feel that in this age, both parties should be capable of supporting themselves in the event of job loss or separation. With that notion, I really don't see much point in a ring, beyond employee benefits that extend to the spouse.
How do you guys feel?
- I still believe in marriage for all couples60% (64)41% (26)53% (90)Vote
- I still believe in marriage for hetero couples only18% (19)25% (16)21% (35)Vote
- I don't believe in marriage anymore8% (9)17% (11)12% (20)Vote
- Show me the results! / I really don't care14% (14)17% (10)14% (24)Vote
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I vote A.
I think a lot of people have a very jaded and incomplete understanding of what marriage is. I agree that the divorce rate today does paint a rather bleak picture for our society today, but the problem is not with this sacred institution itself. It's with the people who are getting married.
People today do not understand what marriage requires. Today's world is obsessed with logic and facts, but these things can only take us so far. A relationship will not sustain itself because a couple is "compatible" with each other. Marriage involves effort, education, and sacrifice. Compatibility is only part of the battle. In marriage, love involves a total and mutual self-giving.
As far as taxation goes, the government should have little to no involvement with marriage. That means get rid of the marriage penalty taxes and no tax credits for getting married in the first place. Get rid of "no-fault divorces", and for what it's worth, don't cite "irreconcilable differences".
I don't know what you base the "anti-gay couples" comment on, but I'd be interested to learn.
I think more people are capable of marriage and parenting than they've been formed to realize. Because of the way things are right now, they are selfish, fearful, and bitter. They're selfish because they argue about who "benefits" more from marriage and they are too focused on their own desires and wants. They're fearful because they've been raised in broken homes. And they're bitter because women think men only want sex and men think that women only want money.
Again, the problem is not with marriage itself. It's primarily with the mindset that most people have about love and marriage. Love is a choice.3
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