Lately I've been noticing a ton of people I know either getting engaged after three years of dating, or making comments like "we've been together for three years, he knows I want a ring".
I don't know if this is how most people think or not but it sure seems like it
I think it's pathetic, and that you shouldn't decide to marry someone just because you've been together for three years, but it appears I'm a minority among girls.
I also especially don't understand it because I'm only 20 and I keep hearing this from my classmates and friends; but all I can think is: you're ONLY 20 AND IN DEBT FROM SCHOOL. HOW THE F CAN YOU JUSTIFY NEEDING A RING?
If they're willing to tell me how they can't afford a $7,000 ring and are in debt up to their eyeballs then they're making it my business. You're very butt hurt, aren't you?
I'm asking a simple question. Keep your head on.
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I agree, for me its like this. There are no rules when it comes to relationships and there really isn't a set timeline for you to know you've found the "one" either. Not because you've made it to the three year mark means you were meant to be together for a lifetime. People change, shit happens etc. So there really is no way of telling. Besides, giving a guy an ultimatum like that is asking for trouble. If he's genuinely not ready to marry at that 3yr mark, it doesn't mean he won't. And if you force him then be prepared for the resentments and the "what ifs". I'd rather he make that decision for himself when he is 100% sure that I am the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with. But I do understand where people are coming from with this. Three years is a long time and he should have figured out what his plans for the relationship. And especially if you are an older female with goals of a family and marriage, I completely understand. But for me, you can't race to the finish without going through the process of it all, be it 3 years or 10 years (even though I personally would never "date" for 10 years). When its right, its right and you both will know.2