Me and my boyfriend have only been dating for a little while (10 months), but I can really see a future with him and I kinda suspect that he can too (I asked him where he saw himself in 5 years - career wise - and he told me with me.. it kinda took me aback and actually made me speechless, but I thought it was sweet. He stares at me with loving eyes like he wants to tell me something a lot too and when I ask him what it is he just says "not yet, I want to tell you, but it's too soon. I just.. I just love you so much").
I personally don't believe in getting married before I have my bachelor's degree so I mean I'm not in a rush to get married now (I couldn't. My mother would KILL me. She got married at my age and she regrets it although she only dated my dad for 3 months long distance, but that's a story for another time) and I also plan on being engaged for at least a year when it does happen, but I'm kinda wondering timeline-wise when it's okay to start brainstorming about it. A year? Two? When does it become socially acceptable to use the M-word?
Thank you everyone for your advice ^_^
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While I'm not saying bring it up on the first date, it is something to think about. You should talk about marriage and what someone wants in a future in broad strokes in the beginning ie- one day I'd like to get married and have kids.
Because some people don't want that, some never want marriage or never want kids, or want them 10-20 years down the line depending on age.
If their are deal breaks the sooner the better to know them.
But talking specifically about marriage to your boyfriend? Well that's different completely and no one can tell you the exact time but logically it would be after the whole I love yous happen. Like the song goes, first comes love, then comes marriage...
It does sound like both of you want to talk about it and both of you are feeling that way. Think of this my grandparents were married after 3 months and through thick and thin have been married for 57 years. That's how the older generation worked, you for someone you love, you got married and you fought for that relationship, you made it work. You picked someone that made you happy and you stuck it out. So a lot of people might tell you 10 months is too soon. And someone people might say you can get married now. Who knows how long any marriage will last. You gotta do what makes you happy and it sounds like he does :)0