I've seen this more than just a few times. Some a-hole of a guy takes advantage of a girl and hurts her in some way. Suddenly, it's not just his fault, but the fault of every guy on the face of the earth. And guess who gets the most crap for it? The nice guys. We get beat up for the mistakes of someone else we've never met. And we get more than other people do because we're too nice to fight back or turn the tides. We didn't do anything to you. So why beat us up over it?
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It's the individual, not just women. Men do this to us too. They get taken for a ride by some worthless bitch, and suddenly they become commitmentphobes denying a good relationship from good women because they can't trust.
It's a terrible way to live one's life, constantly punishing others for the bad behaviour of one. My husband had ridiculous jealousy problems when he met me completely sure I would cheat, and it took years to get him to give me a break about it as I had been nothing but nice to him and never cheated, never will.
You just need to remind the person that you're not that other person. You don't deserve to pay for someone else's mistakes or bad behaviour, and if the women you're talking about continue to do this with you, they obviously are not ready to be with any guy until they sort out their problems with counselling, or read a book or two on how to get over their hurt to allow themselves to be loved without constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Good luck, because women go through it too, and it's not fair no matter which gender does it to the other.1