i am EXTREMELEY shy, and i can't eye contact, with anyone not even my parents or siblings or friends, relatives... etc what can i do about this? i learned a couple of tricks that would fool the person i am talking to, to think that i am eye contacting when i am not, such as looking at their nose... etc but my mom is saying this isn't a solution , and i must stop this, but i tried , and i can't, any ideas on what i can do?
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Eye contact starts to feel more natural as you get more comfortable with people in other ways. If you want to kickstart it, though, try talking about this with a family member and having them help you by having a face-to-face conversation. Take it slow and easy--have them smile a lot and talk about pleasant things, and avoid doing anything to intimidate you. Once you can make a little eye contact with them, try adding a little more. Don't jump straight to trying to look at complete strangers in the eye--even not-terribly-shy people have trouble with that sometimes. You'll get to that eventually.
For what it's worth, most people don't make perfect eye contact. You'll probably spend most of your time (when you've become comfortable) looking in one eye or the other, or in the space between eyes.0