If you had to choose between the love of your life and a dream career, which one would you choose?
- Love of my lifeVote A
- Dream careerVote B
Most Helpful Guy
This will most likely skew based on age. Young will lean towards career, thinking it is easy to meet someone acceptable because they have spent so much time in school and entry level jobs that provide a ton of opportunity to meet young, single people. And at that point, the idea of 'working on what you love' seems like the most sensible, exciting use of your time. Older will trend towards 'love', as it becomes exponentially more difficult to find people you are really compatible with later in life, and you begin to realize that you only work so that you can spend your time off enjoying it with the people you care about. Your time away from work is way more important than your time at work, so you would want to set up something that the time away from work is better... which would involve having the love of your life be a part of it. Work is just work, do whatever to pay the bills and give yourself enough time to enjoy life. That's a way better return.
You will also have a lot of people that don't realize that the structure of the question implies mutual exclusivity. So they will pick a 'dream career' assuming they would also then find someone to be the love of their life anyway. But your question is suggesting "Dream career, plus shitty partner" vs "Love, but shitty career". And so really, what is the point of a good career if you have no one to share your life with? Being lonely and rich is not a path to fulfilment or happiness, that's pretty common knowledge. I think a lot of people are 'cheating' the question by assuming the good career will still afford them a happy, fulfilling social life. But the exclusivity of the question shouldn't allow that "I choose both" kind of response because it's so clearly the dominant choice.1
Most Helpful Girl
Am more than extremely fortunate in that I already have both.0