Im not single but when i was i was lonley and depressed 😒
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I could say I choose to be single. That the idea of traditional dating puts me off. That the idea of needing to be a pursuer whilst never knowing the feeling of being pursued seems like an imbalance I am not interested in meddling in. Or perhaps I could say that I have found so few women who really intrigue me. I could also point to my city having one of the highest obesity rates in the nation, and after breaking a girl's heart, I promised myself I wouldn't force myself to date someone I wasn't attracted to again.
Of course, all of that would essentially be bullshit. They are certainly factors, yes. But my real problem is my own insecurities in introducing myself to new girls I am attracted to. I don't fear rejection so much. A simple "no" isn't that hard to deal with. I fear being creepy. I fear making her uncomfortable by simply wanting to meet her. I used to think the line was somewhat obvious, but my college experience has me shaken. I feel, to an extent, like girls are desperately searching for ways to ruin me. To turn me into a villain.
I also don't have tons of motivate to go out and meet tons of people in general. I mean, I don't have a problem with it. It's fun, and it feels great. But I'm also fairly comfortable alone, like I don't NEED other people there.
But it's also bullshit for another reason: I would be a flaming hypocrite if I claimed those as my main issues. Girls have generally pursued ME. Girls have approached ME. Girls generally haven't had problems with going Dutch, some have even bought ME a date when things were rough.
So I would say I am single because of my own damned insecurities, as much as it pains me to say.3