Just asking cause I remember, as a kid and still female, being forced into cheerleading, dance teams, even ballet to channel my "inner girl" and hated every damn second of it and still don't forgive my mom and granma for that. It actually took my dad telling them I hate it to finally make it stop.
Now given my experiences were a living hell, I resolved to never in my life allow any of my kids (in like 10 years cause thats fair to me and them) to be put into a sport they don't like just because its "what boys/girls your age do". Shit if I have a son that wants to do gymnastics, do ahead. A daughter wants to play football? I'll fight it with her. I don't think what sports a kid plays decides anything about their character, especially when you assume they do grow up and have minds eventually lol.
So given that, would you let your kids play a sport that you just don't see their particular gender playing (girl - football, boy - gymnastics/ballet)? Would you say no and why not, and I'd love other answers besides "cause thats not for boys/girls" or "my kids gonna look gay" etc. etc. Unique answers, but if thats your answer then fine by me. If you would let your kids do so why? If you have kids right now and are letting them do so, how's that working out for them?
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I don't have kids myself yet but I have a girlfriend who wants to have children with me and will probably get our first child in 3-4 years. Personally, I hate, I mean I HATE what I call "gendering" (the act of pressuring kids/teenagers/people in general into their traditional gender roles). Not just in terms of sports but in everything. I know parents who for example by their boys toy cars and their girls puppets. Or parents who paint their boy's room blue and their daughter's room pink. Or my grandma used to buy my little sister skirts and when my sister started crying because she didn't like them, my grandma got all sulky. All this stuff really pisses me off. This whole idea of "girls have to be like x and guys have to be like y" is just so incredibly stupid and annoying. Also in relationships: many guys think it's "unworthy of a man" to do "typical girl tasks". As it happens however, I am simply better at those and my girlfriend happens to be better at "typical guys tasks". I could theoretically repair a broken TV or build together a bookshelf but why should I do it and get all annoyed and frustrated in the process if my girlfriend can do it in half of the time? And why should she cook for me if I'm simply a much better cook than her? It just doesn't make sense. Everyone is different and should be able to live the way they want to live, regardless of gender roles. Because I am very aware of these things, I want to try hard to avoid any kind of gender pressuring possible when I have kids. I will buy them both boy toys and girl toys. If my son wants to dress as a princess and my daughter wants to be a cowboy, no problem! If my boy wants to do ballet and my daughter wants to become a trucker, so what? What matters is only one thing: that they are happy.2