Not to suggest that you can't be married without those values, of course. However, I had a conversation with my grandmother, who is liberal for her time, but still a bit conservative at times. She makes all these comments about how I should stop having sex until marriage, not showing too much skin, lest the guy get the wrong idea, not focusing too much on intellectual development and career because men are turned off by women who are smarter than they are, and I'm already a "know-it-all," etc. All my "weaknesses" in her opinion, basically. And I'm like, for what exactly? Aside from the fact that most guys my age are so not looking to get married, younger people in general are not focused on that. You have to take care of yourself in this world, which is a good thing in a lot of ways. Millenials, especially career-driven young people living in big cities like myself, are less likely to get married young. I'm almost 25 now and completely single. there's no marriage in sight for the next few years, and I'm not even dating anyone. A high percentage (compared to years past) of us are estimated to likely never be married, and an even higher percentage will be divorced.
Knowing all of that, why should we even try to impress these guys (or girls) and live by old fashioned standards? It's a new day out here, something I dont think grammy has fully understood yet.
What do you think?
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Clearly, we don't care about these values. Those who hang on will just end up disappointing themselves... the last refuge will probably be weird religious cults that will continue inbreeding...1