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I think you're going about it the wrong way. You should have female friends, so that way if you're are awesome with them, they'll be awesome with you. They might not want to fuck you, but they certainly could help you hook up with their friends. Plus you'll expand your social circle and have fun people to do stuff with.
But if you want to avoid being merely cums with women, stop being chummy. That means you'll have to learn to let go of what women think of you. You need to get into a mindset where you feel you have an abundance of women and that none of them really matter. The moment you put one on a pedestal you come off as needy. But at the same time if you're too casual, don't flirt, don't escalate and never heighten sexual tension then you won't get anywhere. That means you'll have to take risks. Most women won't like you in that way. That's okay, because there will be some who do.1