My mother is in the hospital today and I am very worried for her. It occured to me just before leaving to visit her that worry, although not always useful, might in many cases be inevitable. The same is true perhaps for heartache and/or bitterness. While not particularly useful, is it possibly inevitable to some extent (as to which extent I cannot say)? When people are hurting about love or lack thereof, how useful is the advice, "Get over it?" If heartache and/or bitterness were that easy to just "get over it," it would seem to me no one would ever experience it. I have seen advice on GAG which amounts to (or in some cases is literally spoken as) "Get over it." Would it not be wiser to simply say, "I wish I could help you, but I can't?"
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In cases where there just isn't anything that can be done, there is no actual need for advice; there is only need for support.
I believe a better way to say it would be, "You’ll get over it in time." It isn’t imperative like “Just get over it” is, but rather a declaration that you believe they will get past it someday despite how low they’re feeling right now, that maybe it will take some time, but they will get past it. Perhaps showing confidence in them in their moment of weakness may just give them strength and belief in themselves too that they can get through it, that it won’t feel like this forever, and that they will be okay someday.
Anyway, I hope your mom's okay. :/0