So how do you define confidence and insecurity and which of the following do you think determines whether a person feels confident or insecure
A) Overall frame of mind
B) Skills/attributes relative to those around you?
C) Combination of A&B
Confidence is based on skills/attributes relative to those around you
EX:You suck at sports and always perform the worst so you feel insecure on the field, but intellectually you are very gifted and are miles ahead of you peers and because of that you feel confident (perhaps even arrogant :o) in the classroom.
Or with physical appearance, let’s say you’re objectively average looking but lived in a town where everyone looked like models. Relative to those around you, you feel ugly and insecure. Then if you moved to a town where everyone was average looking just like you, you’d likely feel more confident becaue now you are even with those around you
And then maybe your overall state of being (confident/insecure) is defined when you tally all the positives and negatives. So if the areas of your life where you feel confident outweigh the areas of your life where you feel insecure then your overall state of being is confidence? So if overall you are even or better than your peers than you feel confident.
Confidence/insecurity just as simple as your frame of mind. You can will yourself into being confident just by believing in yourself regardless of whether you have the skills/attributes to back it up. Confidence is just you choose to belive in and accept yourself for who you are, even if those around you are objectively better.
(C) Combination of A and B Bonus Question: Where is the line drawn between confidence and arrogance? Is it just if you think you are better than those around you? What if objectively you are better than your peers, would it still be arrogance?
Most Helpful Girl
Confidence is doing things, insecurity is being afraid to do things, and arrogance is believing you can do anything.0
Most Helpful Guy
I should think the difference between confidence and insecurity is obvious, so I don't intend to touch on that.
Sometimes (and please note I said SOMETIMES which is an important distinction) I think the difference between confidence and arrogance is how attracted this person is to you (let the downvotes commence). Seriously, I've seen it many times. Same guy, same skills, two different women. One was attracted to him, the other wasn't. The attracted woman thinks he's confident. The one who wasn't attracted thinks he's arrogant. I kind of suspect this is why a lot of good looking people are viewed as confident, whereas not so good looking people can be viewed as arrogant. Before you go hitting that reply button and saying, "I've known PLENTY of good looking guys/gals who were totally arrogant," please note that I'm speaking in generalities and of course there are plenty of exceptions.1