This guy I really liked (who was once interested in me) doesn't like me back in the way I like him. I don't get it because we get on so much, I know that he really does value me as a friend. I don't really get why he doesn't like me since he was initially attracted to me... It's not like he's super confident in his appearance, he's pretty insecure. Why doesn't he like me? Ughhh
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I am sorry to hear that. However, I would like for you to please ponder the possibility that perhaps this issue doesn't revolve around you specifically. There currently exist an abundant number of possibilities for the rationale behind his loss of interest. For instance, he may have encountered someone else whom he shares a solid and passionate bond with. In addition, he simply may not be searching for any romantic involvement at the moment. I highly recommend you to not take it so personally. Developing the habit of holding things, such as someone else's lack of interest, to such a personal level tends to be quite harmful for one's self esteem because it forces one to question one's worth.
"Am I just not good enough?" is never the manner in which one should approach the questioning of such circumstances, the logic being that there is no such thing as "not being good enough." Beauty is a highly subjective manner. Moreover, in reference specifically to your case, if a man fails to experience attraction towards you, it isn't a matter of you being short on charm or appeal; it's a matter of the subjectiveness that revolves around the subject of attraction.
In conclusion, I advice you to function as your own evaluator and to disallow your self esteem and self worth to be so dependent on other's personal views and perceptions.2