I concider myself a feminist and im all for equality. So i was on a date last night with a guy that payed for everything, no question asked. He would aks me what and if i wanted anything, when i said yes he just got up and bought it for me.
I didn't expect him to pay for me at all, i brought more then enought money to buy drinks for me and him. But at the end of the day of he wants to pay for me, im not going to stop him.
For some reason i feel like bad person for not telling him i can pay for myself or that he doesn't need to pay for me. Am i a hypocrit for not buy my own drinks?
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I don't think it's hypocritical to let someone do something nice for you, especially if you were and are prepared to do the same for them. If you go out with this one again, you can pay next time. No big deal.
I don't like the idea that there have to be really strict rules about what being a feminist and an independent woman looks like. I think you can believe that women are equal to men and still accept when people do nice things for you (holding open doors, paying for dinner, etc.) because I think everyone should do nice things for everyone else. It might prescribe to the norm, but at its core, it's a nice gesture (and one you were prepared to reciprocate).2