The title might sound misleading, but I was wondering, If a woman punched a man in the face, and he hit her in the face back, is that okay as self defence. Because I've asked some of my (female) schoolmates about it and they always 'gasp in horror' and then say it mustve been something the man had done to provoke her and that she was okay to hit him, but he wasn't allowed to hit her. This seems like sexism to me and I was wondering it it's okay.
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Hitting is never okay, no matter what. Your friends who claim that it is okay to hit a man if he provokes you are the same kind of people who find it okay to hit their children if the children are having a tantrum or being very annoying. It's just a bullshit excuse to find legitimate way to hit another person. Having said this, I also don't find it okay for the guy to hit back the woman in "self-defense". Especially punching in the face is definitely NOT self-defense (unless you are in a seriously dangerous situation where somebody wants to abduct you or something like that). Considering men are usually stronger than women, it's already totally sufficient to grab her hand and strongly hold them down. Sometimes it's even enough to just cover your face and body with your arms. If a girl is a violent person and is on a serious rampage, I would probably push her away from me in self defense. All these things are great ways to deal with a hitting woman without having to hit her back. IF you punch somebody in self defense, you should never aim for the face but for the chest or something like (again, given that it's not some kind of criminal or so).
And what people (especially a lot of young girls) unfortunately don't understand is that there is one super efficient way of defending yourself that incorporates no physical force whatsoever. If you have a violent boyfriend or a violent girlfriend, the best way of dealing with this is being VERY strict about it and breaking up if necessary. If I had a girlfriend who was becoming violent regularly, I would sit her down after one of those fights and have a very serious talk with her. I'd do this two or three times and if things didn't change, I would dump her pretty soon. I'm a very soft-natured and peaceful person and I have absolutely no tolerance for violent people. Especially girls should be like that too. I know a girl myself who has a violent boyfriend. He is super jealous and hits her all the time for stupid reasons and it breaks my heart to see her stay with him anyway. Every time I talk about it with her she's like "he'll become better one day" only to go home and be hit again.0