So, I live in Turkey and unlike the West, Turkish people eat, drink and breathe gender roles. It's considered something you teach your child. We're a patriarchal country, but not like we'll-rape-and-exocute-you-if-you-commit-adultery-unless-you're-a-guy, more like you're-girl-so-you-have-to-help-mom-with-chores-while-your-brother-is-chilling-oh-and he-can-come-home-at-4AM-but-if-you-do-you're-dead-also-don't-let-anyone-see-your-hygenic-pads-because-periods-are-something-to-be-ashamed-of patriarchal. Husbands think they can rule over the wife and do anything to her. Domestic violence is pretty big and most women stay in abusive marriages for their kids or because they're dependent on the man's money.
When I tell my family members I won't do every chore in the house and split them with my partner, they simply laugh at me. Quoting them:
"😆😁 why would he marry you then?"
"Why he would marry you if you're not going to serve? 😏"
"Then you'll never get married 😂😂"
"😄 why would a man clean the windows?"
Why would he marry me? This question makes my blood boil. Why do you marry someone? You love them—or you think you do. You want to settle down/have kids. There are a million reasons to marry and having your own personal servant is not one of them. They even try to teach me to cook so I can make a variety of foods for him. I want to be clear: there's shit to get done in a house and I won't starve myself or sleep in sheets our cat just pissed on yesterday. I'll get something done. But if you don't get something done, I won't be doing your part. If I cook, you clean. If you take the trash out, I'll change the cat's litter box. What's funny about that?
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I guess some societies are different.1