We all grew up being taught by the environment around us. Our parents, our friends, even by society in general. We are told, "this is right" and "this is wrong."
Or, "believe in this God" or "don't believe in this God."
Many of us grow up swearing up and down that we are our own masters, that our thought processes are of our own choice. But... can we REALLY say that? After all, let's say a person grew up eating nothing but Spaghetti his whole life, that's all he knows, he has never been introduced to any other type of food. Naturally, when asked, he is going to say Spaghetti is the best kind of food ever created.
So, where do we draw the line? What is a true, distinguishing feature of a person who TRULY thinks for themselves? If a person were to sit down and say, "I truly, geninely like ______, and it isn't because someone taught it to me, I actually, genuinely like this because I have discovered it for myself."
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People who are truly independent question what they were taught, and may even go against it once their own opinions form.
I can say I am from life experiences. I grew up to think as such: God is real and all around me, I MUST only date other black people, I am a straight girl, I am not a tomboy, homosexuality is not real, I like these sports, these teams, and those players, I play with dolls, I eat like a lady, I talk like a lady, all black people can cook and sing gospel, I should go to church, I am female and therefor need to know how to cook and clean, white people can't cook to save their lives, I speak when spoken to, I fight back if hit, and I listen to adults no questions asked.
But over time I grew to think this way: God may be real but I don't give a shit, I date whoever the hell I want to but I don't prefer black women (probably because they were stomped into my head as the superior race of women), I am a butch lesbian as female but otherwise a transsexual and a straight man, homosexuality exists, I like track and soccer not basketball and football and don't give a fuck about players, I play with instruments and PS3 or PS4 remotes, I eat like I have sense, I speak my mind, not all black people can cook and sing gospel, I go to church by force, I am MALE and can cook to survive, my white friends cook better than me, I speak both when spoken to, in conversation, and whenever the hell I want to/the situation calls for it, I am passive aggressive but will knock a mf out if you hit a female as well as my brothers, my friends, my family, and myself, and I listen to those who respect me fuck your status in my life.
Now most of that is different compared to how I was raised over the course of 18 years. I have grown to have significantly different beliefs, attitudes on life, and simply have changes and grown up to be a free-thinker. I am not the doctor my family wanted, I am a vet who writes stories. I am not gonna be someones wife but someones husband. And I do NOT want 10 damn kids but maybe 3 or 4 (10 cause my family says that's "only natural").
So sorry for the life story, but the line is drawn when a person begins to truly sit down and have a deep 1-on-1 with themselves and think about everything they were taught to believe in and why it is THEY believe in it. They need to question it, think about it, and challenge it a bit before finally knowing what it is they believe in as a person.0