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Not sure what type of response you were hoping to get - I think in general, it would help if you had asked for a more specific opinion rather than inviting a general response. I'm not totally sure what you're asking of girls here- do you want to know why we think guys are bitter and resentful towards women? Or what we think about what you think about this topic?
I agree with most of your concerns, but they are not unique to men. I think there are many women out there who are just as bitter and disillusioned by the dating game. Ultimately, I don't think the system or "rules" of dating are to blame, but shitty people of both genders who lack the capacity to realize that their behavior affects other people. Therefore, they turn to ignoring someone they've dated but just didn't feel a spark with, sweet-talking someone into intimate relations and generally acting selfishly and without concern for another person.
Your take on how lack of social skills and fear of rejection lead to becoming bitter were interesting. I agree that most of the pressure on initiating dating is definitely on men and I can see how that is very stressful. At the same time, it is also extremely frustrating to have to wait to be asked because no matter how many times the opposite is proclaimed by guys, they do not actually enjoy being asked out even if they like the girl because then they do not feel that they "won" her or whatever.
I think it's just difficult to find a decent person that you like and that likes you... perhaps it wasn't all that different in the past, but based on what my parents say when I ask them about how dating worked in their youth (60s&70s), then it sounds like people treated each other with a lot more respect generally. Maybe they just got lucky, I don't know. But there's something especially about online dating or dating on facebook/skype that makes it easy to ignore another person without even thinking about it.
Dating is tough and it's easy to become bitter and resentful towards the opposite sex... personally I find that it really helps to think of people of your own gender that usually act like total jerks in romantic situations, helps put things back into perspective. Great and shitty people were made both male and female :D1