I've never been so cruel as to judge someone who's made a few stupid decisions. I feel like its something that happens to the best of us and my job is only to help the person grow a pair and realize their mistake so that they can fix it. I don't like to dwell on the past and make a person feel low because they made bad decisions. People, especially online act like they've never made a bad decision. Don't we all?
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I think there are two aspects to this: First of all, personally, I can say that I've never made a really bad decision that had a decent amount of influence on my life. I've made some minor bad decisions that led to arguments with family members or that made me lose small amounts of money but I really can't think of any truly important situation where I've made a bad decision. The thing with me is that I take a very long time to make a decision. I'm quite a head person. This means that I will think for days, weeks or even months about the pros and cons of a certain decision. I only make my decision when I am certain that this is the best thing to do from the options I have. For example: I love to play the guitar. One of my dreams is to possess a western guitar (at the moment I only have classical guitar with nylon strings). However, I don't have a lot of money because I'm a uni student and a decent western guitar costs around 600-700 bucks in my country. I've been thinking about the past 3 years now whether I should buy a western guitar or not. I just can't decide because I don't want to regret my purchase afterwards. And my thinking is: as long as I can't be sure that I won't regret it, I shouldn't buy it.
Secondly, what you should understand particularly in respect to this site is that there are people from all over the world on GaG. It's a meeting place of people with all kinds of cultural backgrounds. We don't all have an American mentality and some mentalities are vastly different from the American mentality. For example, in my home country Switzerland and large parts of western continental Europe, failing is stigmatized very, very much. In America on the other hand, this is not the case. For example, if you try to start your own business in America and you end up failing, people will just tell you "don't worry about it. Just get your stuff together, sort it out and try again! Sooner or later you must succeed!" Americans are extremely positive thinking. In Europe on the other hand, people will regard your failure as a proof that you are not a capable person. This can go as far as not giving you a job later on at a job application. Failing or making a bad decision is very much looked down at in my culture. That's why Europeans don't like to readily admit it if they made a bad decision. We're scared of being shamed. In east Asia, where my girlfriend comes from, people also don't like admitting bad decisions or failures because the concept of face is1
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