The more you go out of your way to see yourself as a victim, the more you sap your own initiative and ultimately damage yourself. The sad part is that people then look at the damage they've inflicted on themselves as proof that the world was against them all along.
Most Helpful Girl
We've discussed this extensively in therapy. There are certain forces beyond your control, true, but allowing oneself to be beaten down is the real loss.2
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, definitely makes sense. I mean, bad things don't happen because of a single reason, they're usually the result of a chain of problems, so you can't say "it's all the damage you've done on yourslef!!" to a person. But, to a good enough degree, people are responsible themselves for the pschological hardnesses they have to face.0