The trap of the victim mentality: would you agree with this statement?

The more you go out of your way to see yourself as a victim, the more you sap your own initiative and ultimately damage yourself. The sad part is that people then look at the damage they've inflicted on themselves as proof that the world was against them all along.

Updates:
Not saying that discrimination doesn't exist - age, sex, race, etc. etc. etc. though it would certainly amplify the effect. This is a psychological question, not a sociological one.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • We've discussed this extensively in therapy. There are certain forces beyond your control, true, but allowing oneself to be beaten down is the real loss.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Yeah, definitely makes sense. I mean, bad things don't happen because of a single reason, they're usually the result of a chain of problems, so you can't say "it's all the damage you've done on yourslef!!" to a person. But, to a good enough degree, people are responsible themselves for the pschological hardnesses they have to face.

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What Guys Said 4

  • Yes, it very much does. By being the victim, you essentially wave the right of choice, that is you are now an object that is acted upon, rather then an active partisipant in your life. This would ineffect, remove in inititive to alter the situation since you have viewed yourself as having no means with wich to change said situation.

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  • how do you define which damage is up to theirselves, and which is on the other's? can you quantify it?

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  • I agree, that is what leads to drama. When someone lets themselves get hurt to earn the victim role of a situation which does affect some other things like their confidence and independence. Instead of dealing with the problem they let it get out of hand to receive attention and care from others.

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  • It's possible to rise above being a victim but you can't really stop being a victim. Take this example, if a bully punches you in the nose, and beat the crap out of them, you may have risen above being a victim, but your nose is still broken and bleeding and will probably be crooked the rest of your life.

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