If you were in love with a friend and they didn't feel the same way could you still be their friend?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • 100% positive!
    I managed before with my closest friend, i loved her very deeply and i had feelings for her. Then she fell in love with a different guy. Ofcourse this really hurt but the hurt is temporary as i reasonably quickly managed to separate my feelings for her. Its possible since love isn't the same as your feelings. And once you love a friend without having feelings for them it won't hurt you.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I've been in that situation and we kept being close friends but it was sooo painful. Worst months of my life. Things changed after a while and then we started dating, but before that happened, being just friends was awful but I didn't want to stop being friends because that was gonna hurt even more.

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    • Did your relationship work out?

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    • Can I pm you? I need help and you seem to have experience in this area.

What Guys Said 7

  • I think that is the toughest outcome and I think friendship is doomed because of underlying feelings.

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  • No it would be too painful

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  • I just got over a year-long crush on my friend. Asked how she felt about us being more twice: first time wasn't bad, second time hurt like a bitch. Or rather, I took it like one. Secretly, anyway.

    But yeah. We're good now---like nothing awkward happened, it is such a relief---and I'm currently interested in another girl. Learned a lot through that experience.

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  • Of course! That's a dumb reason to throw a friendship away. I'd definitely have to take some time away from her to move on before I hang out with her regularly.

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  • Yes, I could. However, prudence would make me think that perhaps I shouldn't.

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  • That's what I'm trying to do rn. It really hurts, but I think about how I feel when I don't talk to her at all.

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  • Uh... i don't think so... it would just pain me to see "in my case" her not being with me

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What Girls Said 8

  • Yes, what kinda friend would I be if I didn't? I absolutely hate it when a guy stops being my friend just cus I am not romantically interested in him (I'm looking at you John, Chandler, and Chad😐).

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    • Why do you "absolutely hate it when a guy stops being [your] friend just cus [you're] not romantically interested in him?"

      I wrote a mytake about this very issue. For some reason I've had difficulty linking mytakes to opinions, so if you're interested, just look under my profile.

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    • The majority of them start as friends, with the exception of John.

    • I see.

      Did they express hurt when they were rejected?

  • Yes, I'd still be his friend as long as he would be willing to continue our friendship.

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  • No. I don't think so.
    IT would probably be difficult if I love him.

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  • Yes I would still be their friend.. Although it would be hard for me...

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  • lool. I'm in that situation now, and I'm still going to be friends with him, of course.

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  • No it would be awkward for me.

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  • No, I think its best to stay away for a while, until you can feel neutral in their presence again, although a while can turn into forever in some cases...

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  • yes i would.

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