I have failed many types when it comes to finding a partner.. i haven't been with a lot of guys, and it has only been over a 2 year period, but i have noticed that i do one thing pretty much everytime i meet a guy and i dont think its a good thing.
So you could say that since i dont have a lot of real life dating experience pretty much everything i have learned is online, movies, books etc. Non of my friends growing up really had boyfriends/girlfriends anyway, or my siblings so i didn't really have a "real life" view on how dating really was.
Anyway, the thing i do, or expect is that i always picture dating as a scenario where there is chemsitry right away, and we match perfectly and the dating scene is a dance on roses. But when i started dating and realised a lot of those guys werent "perfect" it made me second guess even dating them. If a guy didn't have all the qualities i wanted i didn't see him as potential boyfriend.. but at the same time i wouldn't really give a lot of myself aka being open and communicating etc.
I know that i was way off and no on is perfect.. but a part of me still gets turned off when i find out the guy im dating isn't into going to the gym, or likes motorcycles (have no idea why, but its a huge turn off lol). So any advice? it makes me stop trying before it even started basically
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I had a couple of female friends like this. In all of their cases it was that they had unrealistic dating expectations. They wanted a dating fairy tale. Therefore they were always disappointed by the guys they met because no guy could ever be that perfect. Later they stopped doing that and found meaningful long term relationships.
A possibility could also be that subconsciously you are not ready for a relationship and kind of use it to push guys away.
As advise I can say perfection can be boring. A guy with different interests than you can sometimes add more to the relationship than a guy that has exactly the same interest as you. Get to know the guy you are meeting. Let people surprise you. Who knows what will happen.0