My wife is visiting after 3 months of being away. We are in a long distance relationship. She was supposed to come alone but ended up bringing her friend's 5 month old with her (complicated reasons why she did so, so dont ask why) She has spent barely any time with me and pays all her attention to her friend's 5 month old.
Am i wrong to be furious?
- Yes you are wrong to be furiousVote A
- No you are not wrong to be furiousVote B
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She was supposed to come alone but ended up bringing her friend's 5 month old with her (complicated reasons why she did so, so dont ask why)
Per your request, I'm not going to ask why, but the reason the kid is there is actually crucial.
The fact that she devoted more time to the infant than you is as it should be, and I'd hope that would be obvious. However, this leads to the real question of whether her volunteering/accepting the role of caregiver despite knowing that this would infringe on your limited time together is justified.
Going off of this main question and the fact that in-person interaction is sparse, her agreeing to take on the infant due to, say, her friend's babysitter cancelling last minute is NOT okay; you are justified in your anger because she chose to allow her friend's poor circumstances to infringe on your lives, thus making you take on the responsibility without any say-so. If she's caring for the infant due to a death in the family or an unsafe home life, she IS justified; while you have every right to be unhappy, you should understand the circumstances.0